ipnat.conf - map and rdr won't work!

I can't put my mind around it, before reboot I was able to ssh in from outside to my jail and right now I can't! I even rebuild the whole system and even that didn't help:( anyone have any ideas?

su-3.2# cat /etc/ipnat.rules
map fxp0 lama -> 0/32
rdr fxp0 64.52.58.58 port ssh -> lama port ssh tcp
su-3.2# grep lama /etc/hosts
172.16.172.16           lama
su-3.2# ipnat -l
List of active MAP/Redirect filters:
map fxp0 172.16.172.16/32 -> 0.0.0.0/32
rdr fxp0 64.52.58.58/32 port 22 -> 172.16.172.16 port 22 tcp

List of active sessions:
su-3.2# ifconfig
vr0: flags=8943<UP,BROADCAST,RUNNING,PROMISC,SIMPLEX,MULTICAST> metric
0 mtu 1500
       options=2808<VLAN_MTU,WOL_UCAST,WOL_MAGIC>
       ether 00:19:5b:68:9b:01
       inet 172.16.172.16 netmask 0xffffffff broadcast 172.16.172.16
       media: Ethernet autoselect (none)
       status: no carrier
fxp0: flags=8843<UP,BROADCAST,RUNNING,SIMPLEX,MULTICAST> metric 0 mtu 1500
       options=2009<RXCSUM,VLAN_MTU,WOL_MAGIC>
       ether 00:0f:fe:aa:f4:61
       inet 64.52.58.58 netmask 0xffffffe0 broadcast 64.52.58.63
       media: Ethernet autoselect (100baseTX <full-duplex>)
       status: active
plip0: flags=108810<POINTOPOINT,SIMPLEX,MULTICAST,NEEDSGIANT> metric 0 mtu 1500
lo0: flags=8049<UP,LOOPBACK,RUNNING,MULTICAST> metric 0 mtu 16384
       inet6 fe80::1%lo0 prefixlen 64 scopeid 0x4
       inet6 ::1 prefixlen 128
       inet 127.0.0.1 netmask 0xff000000
su-3.2# jls
  JID  IP Address      Hostname                      Path
    1  172.16.172.16   lama                          /usr/jail/lama
su-3.2# grep ^ipnat_enable /etc/rc.conf
ipnat_enable="YES"
su-3.2# grep ^gateway_enable /etc/rc.conf
gateway_enable="YES"
su-3.2# sysctl net.inet.ip.forwarding
net.inet.ip.forwarding: 1
su-3.2#

and this is me from outside trying to ssh to my box and getting time out...

mp:~ alexus$ ssh -v jothost.com
OpenSSH_5.2p1, OpenSSL 0.9.8l 5 Nov 2009
debug1: Reading configuration data /etc/ssh_config
debug1: Connecting to jothost.com [64.52.58.58] port 22.
debug1: connect to address 64.52.58.58 port 22: Operation timed out
ssh: connect to host jothost.com port 22: Operation timed out
mp:~ alexus$

can you access internet from lama ?
Check if sysctl net.inet.ip.forwarding and sysctl net.inet.ip.redirect values are corretly set to 1